Parent engaged or only provider?

• April 29, 2024

Educating a child is a task that requires more elements than providing school, adequate food, clothing and others. Caring attention and example, not only from your mother, are fundamental pillars in its development, so the fact that the father is involved in these aspects is more than necessary to ensure their welfare.

It is common for cultural factors to assume that the work of men in raising a child is limited, and that their only responsibility is to make sure that nothing material is needed, and there are those who take it literally. habit. In your case, are you a foolproof dad or do you stay in the attempt? Answer this test and find out:

1.- From the beginning, when you and your partner decide to seek pregnancy, what role do you assume?
a) We both visit the doctor to make sure that we are in perfect conditions to procreate.
b) I do 'my homework' and wait for her to let me know that she is already pregnant.
c) You pay the best doctor, all the latest generation studies, prenatal yoga classes and all possible comforts.

2.- From the school of your son they have sent you a summons, it seems that it goes a little low of qualifications and its behavior is not exactly the best, how do you solve it with your wife?
a) They meet to talk with the child and know what he has to say about it, and then go together to the appointment to find out how they can help him.
b) You let her go alone and once she gives you the report, you 'support' her by warning your child that if she does not change her attitude, she will see you with her.
c) You ask the boy for his collaboration so that he improves his grades and behavior, and you promise him that in doing so, you will buy him the video game that he has wanted so much.

3.- Your princess has grown up and is going through a bad time: her first love disappointment; she seeks you to tell you her experience, what message do you give her?
a) "Do not worry, soon I will be with you, do you know that I love you and that everything will be fine?"
b) "Do not do so much drama, or that you were to marry the guy, well I told you it did not suit you".
c) "How much does this babe need to heal her wounds? Have this ticket and buy yourself something nice. "

4. When your wife refers you to other people, how do you usually describe your work as a father?
a) He is very committed, he knows our son perfectly and takes good care of him.
b) It came out very good dad, is not drunk or hit us.
c) With him, we never lack anything, always try to have everything we need.

5.- A weekend you have the opportunity to see your daughter doing her best rhythmic gymnastics acrobatics while playing in the park, what is your reaction?
a) You feel proud, but it does not surprise you because you have been in each and every one of the presentations of your class.
b) You are left speechless because you did not know what he was talking about every time he spoke to you about his special classes and you can not believe he makes such advanced positions.
c) You tell your partner that you are glad that at least you are taking advantage of everything you invest in it.

Majority of A : There is no doubt that although some consider you a strange being, you belong to that group of men who are happy to be parents and offer themselves the gift of enjoying their children to the fullest. It is a fact that you are very clear about the great emotional support you give them and that leads you to work on yourself to offer them an example of life, very good for you!

Most B : Although it is very likely that you know, it is worth remembering that boys are not only the responsibility of the mother. The father figure is irreplaceable, because although the woman brings emotional knowledge, parents provide elements to function properly in life. It is time that in addition to assessing your children, you also assume that you are able to add in their development, in fact, you are a key player.

Majority of C : You have given so much importance to the material goods that you have completely stopped participating in the life of your children, and in the process you have left in your partner the unique responsibility of forming them. While it is true that the economic part is important, it is also true that no person can grow up healthy and stable if it lacks love, support and emotional intelligence and that, there is no checkbook that covers it.

What if you change the strategy and surprise your family by giving them all these elements that we mentioned? You will give a total turn to the life of all of you and positively. Collaboration of Fundación Teletón México. "Self-knowledge restrains pride" . bojorge@teleton.org.mx

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