why is good to fail?

• May 3, 2024

"It is wise to err," says the saying. The failure or error is an obstacle to overcome to move forward. The only way to learn and mature is by trying to do things and, if there are faults, to amend them and take advantage of their effect. And that is applicable in all areas of our life: family, school, work, sports and even in love.

If we do not sweep the mistakes to clear the field of action, we will feel frustrated and defeated in almost all aspects of life.

Why can we feel unsuccessful? In many occasions, it is because expectations are exceeded to our capabilities and we feel disappointed when we do not achieve what we thought possible. This happens when we do not measure the distance between the "I" and "the ego ideal", that is, between what I am and what I believe I am.

If we are affected by failure, it does not mean that we have not achieved anything, but that we have learned something, that we were willing to try and that we should do things differently. It teaches us to accept that we are not perfect that we have reasons to start over and fight with more tenacity.

Scientists and researchers say that error is an unavoidable and valuable step to be able to move forward. Failure is only one step, never the end, and based on this statement, there are some concepts that I read on the subject that greatly help to overcome the effects of a failure:

• First analyze and define how it affects you. Face the problem and look for a viable way out.

• Dedicates to each one the time and dedication it deserves, and that will have to be in proportion to its importance (study, family, work, love, friendship, etc.)

• There must be a reasoning between the "ideal self" and the "real self". They must match what you are, what you think you are, so you will live more at ease, you will have a greater personal balance and you will acquire maturity.

• Accept that what has given you life, what you have achieved is an achievement, and never yield to your will to improve.

• If you can not fight against the feeling that you have failed, turn to someone to help you: in the family, in friends or in human development professionals, and you will surely overcome it.

So you can exclaim with complete certainty: Failed me? Never! The famous writer Ernest Hemingway He affirmed that "Man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated".

* International speaker and radio and television host. "Self-knowledge restrains pride" .Bojorge @ teleton.org.mx
 

Video Medicine: Why I teach my children to fail | Jim Harshaw | TEDxCharlottesville (May 2024).