• May 2, 2024

The mid-life crisis mainly affects men, although for socio-cultural reasons they do not usually express it or express it openly, which is why it is usually seen mostly in women; however, it is a stage of life in which one must learn to enjoy like the rest.

The combination and concentration of various factors, such as the loss of a job, the death of relatives, the detachment of children, the early arrival of the menopause or andropause , as well as the drop in libido, all in the 40-year life span, often lead to the dreaded crisis of middle age.

Recover and value happiness

Different psychological studies have shown that happiness and well-being are reinforced with age. Among them, an investigation carried out by the Professor of Economics at the University of Warwick, Andrew Oswald , which defends the thesis that happiness has a "U" shape. That is to say, we began to feel more unhappy after the age of 20, but we recovered well-being little by little until we were seventy, according to information from confidential.com

"Changes are imposed and the possibility of control is much more limited during this period of life, which can damage self-esteem. However, we have to experiment, look for alternatives, explore the unknown and find ourselves and the outside world to enjoy life again, "he explains. personal coach, Alan Heeks , which can be achieved with some small strategies:

1. Identify your hobbies and interests to rebuild your life around them and show you how you are or want to be.

2. Take advantage of the advantages offered by experience to exploit them laborly and sentimentally.

3. Break with the relationships of the past when these are over, especially if it is a marital relationship.

4. Enjoy the present to the maximum to relativize the problems that are dragged from the past.

5. Plan, do well the itinerary of where I am and where I want to go, what are the rungs, what resources do I have, what I need, review everything so that nothing is left to chance, it allows to overcome the crisis of middle age.

The emotional and sentimental stability in this vital phase has a direct relationship with the ability to be aware of what we are.

Only thus, according to Heeks, can we achieve happiness and assume both our shortcomings and weaknesses, to diminish their negative impact, as well as our strengths, to exploit them to the maximum and prevent the crisis of middle age.