• May 6, 2024

The wish sexual is the yearning for contact with another person's body and for the pleasure that act produces; sexual activity is what tends to satisfy such need, says the philosopher Alan Goldman . But how to recognize the differences between make love and to have sex ?

Of course, making love necessarily involves having sex, however, having sex , however good it may be, it is not necessarily to share an act of love, Elliot D. Cohen , psychologist and executive director of National Philosophical Counseling Association (NPCA) .

Physical or love act

In addition to the most logical difference that is the existence or not of love , we present you others that put a dividing line between making love and having sex .

1. Stimulation. Since the sex it is a desire to contact another body, it is a "mechanical" activity: rubbing, touching, to caress , are just part of a physical stimulation, says the psychologist Elliot D. Cohen , they do not seek to reach deep emotions like when love is made.

2. Spiritual involvement. Making love is something spiritual and sex is physical, if you join the two in the first aspect you can get to form a partner , the problem is that this can be confused because in the background you always want to share everything, says the psychologist Susana Saenz .

3. Language. The language of love implies thoughts and perceptions that unite the bodies and the mind, for that reason phrases such as "two hearts that beat like oneself" are used, contrary to the sex where only seeks to excite and comments are used as "I want to feel everything."

4. Please. When you have sex what is sought is self-gratification, the fulfillment of a selfish desire , therefore it does not matter if the other person is satisfied, he had orgasms or is happy, while making love the most important thing is to achieve all that in the other or that is mutual.

5. Complicity. Unlike sex, making love dissolves the abyss between "you" and "I", even if it is not partner , with this act the soul, hopes, dreams and expectations are shared, but above all, the separation that exists in life is renounced for a moment, affirms Elliot D. Cohen .

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