• April 29, 2024

"It's better than me", "nature gives him greater abilities", "he has good luck", "no matter how hard I try, I will never achieve it in success". The comparison it is an action that only manages to devalue the work and the capacity of the person who carries it out, at the same time as it causes a deep feeling of frustration, anger and sadness.

Why do you compare yourself to others? According to the ontological coach Natalia Sleiman , the origin of the comparisons is envy. This feeling lasts much longer than an emotion and is sustained due to the comparison that the person does between his being, his having or doing with the being, having or doing of another person; it usually occurs between pairs. "

Does nothing you do reach you to be better?

Behind the action of comparing yourself with other people is, beyond envy, low self-esteem and insecurity. Since many of these start from the thought "he or she can and I can not". However, there are strategies that can help you avoid comparisons and achieve your happiness, according to Sleiman:

1. Strengthen your self-esteem or self-confidence by feeding it with positive thoughts.

2. Make activities that connect you and help you develop your skills: read, sing, dance, exercise or paint.

3. Compare yourself to yourself, improve your own version whenever you can.

4. Learn from who is already how you would like to be. Do not compete, collaborate and join forces. When you see someone who is where you would like to be, instead of feeling envious, and having negative thoughts like, "Some trap will have been made," ask how he did it. Feeling envy is something natural and human, do not condemn it, the bad thing is when that envy turns it into hatred.

5. Take care of your body and mind.

High self-esteem can serve as a protector against neurodegenerative diseases, such as Alzheimer's. This is what the professor says José Antonio Flores, professor of Behavioral Sciences of the University of Oviedo, in Spain. Then, try to avoid comparing yourself with another person!