Do they manipulate you? This will help you identify it

• April 28, 2024

Has it happened to you? You wanted to say no but you ended up accepting. If this has already happened to you, it is because you fell into the hands of a manipulator .
 

The manipulators, although there is no specific definition, are recognized as being men and women, who exercise control over the thinking of a person or group through deception, with the intention of get benefits in your favor , these are the most common (although there are times that they do it without any specific intention).

To know if you are manipulated or not, we share 8 characteristics that the French psychotherapist Isabelle Nazare-Aga enlisted in her book The Manipulators . Once you detect it, it will be easier for you to say no to a manipulator.

-The manipulators they change their mind, of behavior and feelings based on people and situations.Blame others , transferring to others the responsibility that corresponds to him or her. - Criticize without being noticed, devalue and judge. They play with the ignorance of others to show their superiority. -They knowbecome the victim so they can empathize. -Divide to manipulate better. They lie. They are self-centered. When they can, they try to leave written notes, call or send messages instead of showing their faces. - They do not take into account the rights, needs or wishes of others. - Wait until the last moment to ask, give orders or make work others-They use the flattery, They give gifts or pamper us suddenly.

In addition to these points, take into account that one of the favorite forms of control of the manipulators is emotional blackmail, so it tends to threaten to end the relationship if you do not do what he wants or on the contrary you can not pay attention to compliments when your wishes are fulfilled.

Increase your self-esteem and learn to say no, stay away from the manipulator, express your ideas without fear, take a chance and remember that nobody can make you feel anything if you do not give them permission.
 

The relationship with a manipulator is not exclusive of couples, it also happens with friends, parents, children, brothers and even with the government. What would you do to free yourself from a manipulator?