• April 26, 2024

Surely when you think about the things that can ruin a friendship , at your head come a betrayal, distance or a misunderstanding. However, there are other uncommon ones that also manage to do it, such as social networks .

Facebook can ruin a friendship , because people tend to be less friendly and considered if it is behind a computer, states the study "Crucial Conversations" . Their figures indicate that 19% of the participants blocked or they removed to a friend for a virtual fight.

These are other "unusual" reasons that can end that relationship friendly that you appreciate so much, based on information from Andrea Bonior , psychologist teacher of the Georgetown University and author of "The friendship fix" .

1. Indecision

If you are very picky eater about the plans you're going to make with your friends, you want things to always be done as you say or you refuse to propose activities saying "whatever you want", it will make them wonder if it's worth leaving and maintaining a friendship with you.

2. Try to impress

Especially when friendships start; exalt all your virtues and "bragging" about the things you have achieved is a sure formula to keep a person away. Take into account that you may like people more if you show humility and some vulnerability.

3. Gossip too much

True, sometimes gossip On others it can help you as a kind of glue with your friends, and it does not always have to be with bad intentions. But it will make them wonder if you talk about them behind their backs, what do you say and if it is better walk away of you.

4. Not knowing the signs

The best friends are supposed to be those who are empathic and sensitive to the needs of the other, so not being able to understand that signal that it is a bad moment or that the person needs you, can make you think that you are not interested.

Keep your friends

Some of these factors may be your fault or part of the susceptibility of each person, but the good news is that you keep your friends It is entirely possible with small modifications.

For example, start by making yourself weather to see your friends or at least call them whenever you can so they know they are not forgetting . "Decide together with them when it is more appropriate to meet so that the connection is not lost," says the psychologist Joan Borysenko .

Have many and good friends It really is good for your health, and according to a study of the Harvard Medical School and the Brigham and Women's Hospital the more you have you reduce your chances of developing physical impediments with the passing of age.