• May 5, 2024

Love should not be a form of suffering or a link of power combined with pain, blackmail and forgiveness, but a happy, healthy and positive experience; However, when love begins to degrade and harms us, we are living a "toxic love", which has to do with emotional dependence.

Tomás Navarro, consultant, emotional competence trainer and psychologist at the Panta Rei emotional wellness center in Barcelona, says that "when emotional dependence affects social, work, personal or health, we can say that we have crossed the line of normality".

How to identify toxic partners

According to Argentine psychologist Bernardo Stamateas, author of the book People Toxic , there are people who strengthen our weaknesses and fill us with frustrations.

As a rule, toxic partners aggravate our mistakes and minimize our achievements or spread rumors to destroy our reputation. They pursue one goal: to gain power and control over everything and everyone.

These are the people who think that only they are right and that only they know how things are done, but there are eight keys that can help you get out of a toxic love:

1. Detect: "You have to detect the toxicity to be able to get out of it, it's not about escaping but about facing it."
2. Adapt: If you have detected a toxic situation, you can develop strategies to understand it and not let it affect us.
3. Abstraction: We are all free to 'close the window' to outside noise. So bombard us with lethal messages, we have the ability to protect ourselves and close our minds to that information.
4. Self esteem: Carry out activities that reinforce our skills and abilities, look for healthier environments where they appreciate our qualities.
5. Social relationships : Cultivate true affective bonds with other people.
6. No to victimhood: Abandon the autointoxication, give way to those negative feelings and do something.
7. Solidarity: Doing things for others or getting involved in other projects is a good way to get out of oneself and our own 'misfortune'.
8. Leave: When that couple begins to affect your health, it is better to say goodbye. A withdrawal on time may be the best option.

Once Machiavelli said that "love only serves to disguise power, wealth and fame," and although we can not say that this is true, we must not forget that all love that is not returned brings problems. And you, have you ever experienced emotional dependence?

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