Experience: the best teacher of your child

• May 16, 2024

The punishment works in appearance, it seems that with it we get to have authority before our children, but in reality we will only get obedience for a certain time and at a too high cost of resentment and fear. In reality, you are not educating your children.

Our son should experience the consequences of both his acts and the omission of these and not a punishment imposed, since normally it has nothing to do with the action that we intend not to repeat again; This is one of the reasons that our "corrective" does not result.

Punishments are a distraction at any age, because instead of your child regretting what he did and reflect on how he could fix or fix it, think about how to get revenge or how not to comply with the punishment; so we deprive him of having an internal process in which he faces his own behavior. Educating in responsibility, we educate in decision making.

If we face the consequences of his actions, we will allow him to learn to develop internal control and over time learn to use his freedom responsibly.

In addition we will stop being the bad guys of the story, since we do not punish them, but they themselves have reached that point, but due to the consequence of their actions.

It is better that they were learning that each new situation that is presented becomes an opportunity to grow and improve. In other words, teaching them that mistakes are opportunities to learn.

Cons of punishment

1. They develop greater resistance and challenge

2. It is an external control that inhibits reflection

3. Resentment and fear have consequences

4. Foster the lies

Alternatives

1. Think in a preventive way.

2. Before acting, think if you want to punish him for the seriousness of the fault or for your own anger

3. Search for non-culpable solutions

4. Clear rules

5. Search cooperation

6. Make contracts

5. Positive reinforcement, that is, recognize your effort and your good attitude

Benefits of applying the consequences

We will get to develop:

1. Internal control and so they will learn to self-direct

2. Problem solving ability

3. Self-esteem and self-confidence

4. Be responsible to go little by little learning to use your freedom

"Treat a man as he is and he will remain what he is. Treat a man as he can or should be and he will become what he can and should be "Goethe
 

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