• April 27, 2024

If after a while in a relationship you feel trapped, you think that it is unfair and you suffocate the little space for your individuality or that the commitment is not fair, maybe it is time to look for alternatives forkeep the attraction in you privacy .

The cycles of relationships are given by the unconscious. We are attracted to another person because of certain characteristics of the personality : party and active; the good father, home and quiet. In addition to the cultured, wise, simple, as well as the character protagonist by those protective , among many.

What determines the attraction?

The attraction is given in each person by his experiences children and are determined by theirshortcomings and in what fascinated them about treatment hisparents. Then, throughout life we ​​try to compensate it in different relationships, especially those affective .

What you about to a person first, you move away from her then, let's see some examples:

1. The person party and fun in the relationship if it remains the same and does not mature, you will be fed up with your lack of commitment and irresponsibility.

2. The quiet person and the house, you end up bored and exasperated by not having an adventure.

3. A person who captivates you for his wisdom and accurate advice, living with her ends up saturating you that is always an academy and does not give you space for your own exploration.

4. Who attracts you because you are a relative, a good father and a good son, then in cohabitation you will be asphyxiated by your inability to balance life to generate an intimate relationship.

It has been proven repeatedly that it is a process of every relationship; but what to do to avoid the unwanted effects and the deterioration of the relationship in the privacy ?

1. Be responsible Whoever is in front of him is only a mirror of his own compensations: "If he collides with you, he checks you out".

2. Be synchronized in personal growth . Being aware that the responsibilities in the privacy They are sharing.

3. Leave complaint and regrets . These are sterile. The best thing is to assume what you have ratified, fostering or celebrating in the relationship of love behaviors.

4. Avoid discussions. It implies fostering the qualities that bring and avoid habits what separate . It is the ego trying to prevail over the other.

5. Cultivate tolerances . It is not martyrdom but the acceptance of the differences and the elimination of habit to put in the other expectations.

6. Promote the playful sense. Even with responsibilities and time, keep the game seduction conquest, that healthy Balance between freedom Y commitment .

It allows the attraction and aware in the phase of close up . Never give your power to the other and do not take the power of the other, that is, do not surrender your sovereignty, or accept the sovereignty of others. Even though it may be tempting because of the feeling of power, it is a dangerous trap since the conqueror becomes a slave to sustain his conquest.

Live and recover yourprivacy spoiled playful . Be congruent with what you feel, happy and be happy.

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