• May 3, 2024

They say that love is not black or white, but it has many nuances and without a doubt, we can all ensure that there are many possibilities in love, but how can we identify true love?

According to a study by the University of Navarra in Spain a, they assure that yes there are special characteristics that help you identify the true love of the false. You want to know more?

In the investigation "Our children ... want to love", Jokin de Irala and Ignacio Gómara point out that couples often say to each other that they love each other, but often that feeling is confused with more superficial sensations that have more to do with the pleasure that with a real commitment.

Know the fake love

According to the authors, it is characterized "by the individualistic search for self-satisfaction. It is something that is sought and done for oneself ". They add that this superfluous feeling "is based mainly on sexual pleasure: more than 'giving love' seeks a 'selfish love'".

"The search for pleasure becomes a chain that binds, weighs and enslaves. In the end, sex does not produce complete satisfaction and must be continuously repeated and / or replaced, "emphasize the researchers.

They also indicate that "one's own intimacy is used as an object of occasional exchange: it is to give the body without having given oneself. You become a person-object. "

False love, according to researchers, is characterized by always living the moment and improvising. "It incapacitates you to assume high goals, lasting values", point out Jokin de Irala and Ignacio Gómara. "A physical relationship without commitment is necessarily provisional: it induces to think that a better person is still to come", they affirm.

How to identify true love?

On the contrary, true love is characterized by being "patient, gives peace and tranquility. He knows how to wait: he enjoys every moment knowing that he is building his life and his ideals, his conscience and his personality ".

"He does not want to remain in the mere sensations, but to look for the truth that is in them, his deepest value", explain the authors of "Our children ... want to love".

At the same time, "it adapts to the natural rhythm of the maturation of love: it does not try to repress the tendencies, but to direct them and for that, personal learning and maturation is needed", according to the authors' point of view.

For them, this love "knows that freedom is not in doing what I want, but in knowing how to manage the desire to know if it is convenient. It does not make hasty decisions and without thinking about the repercussions. It promotes self-control and self-esteem: it seeks good for itself and for the other person ", they add.

"The relationship is based on communication, knowledge and mutual acceptance, and tends towards exclusivity and eternity," the researchers conclude. university of Navarra . And you, do you have a true love?

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