35% of women have an adventure

• April 25, 2024

According to data from Research Institute in Clinical and Social Psychology, A.C. in Mexico, 15% of wives and 25% of spouses have or have had extramarital relationships; in the case of "adventures" in which there are no sexual encounters, the figures correspond to 35% of women unfaithful and 45% of men.

Hans Olvera, psychologist and academic Ibeoamerican University , explains that when there infidelity , it manifests itself in a triangular manner and everyone involved is hurt in some way.

The specialist emphasizes that there are several reasons why a person can become an unfaithful man or woman; and emphasizes that regardless of the origin, in all cases it is an expression of violence , so it is advisable not to omit this fact and face it.

He adds that, in his experience, although it is true that a man is more frequent than unfaithful , also in the case of women, the calculated portion is from 3 to 2: "Because of their psychological condition, they have a greater capacity to establish emotional bonds of a romantic type, without this meaning that they maintain sexual encounters, but a relationship in which the possibility of an erotic-type event is veiled. "

Life story

For example, Griselda is 32 years old, for more than six she has been married to Javier, with whom she has a daughter. Approximately more than a year ago, Griselda entered into a parallel relationship with Enrique, a man older than her: "When I met him I liked him very much and thanks to my work I saw him very often. One day he invited me to have a coffee and after a few weeks, one thing took us to the other ... now, we see each other practically every Friday and we have daily contact ".

"Enrique is very detailed, on the other hand my husband does not take a kiss or a compliment or when it is Christmas, Javier is very austere in his way of being, dry, never has attention and that frankly has greatly deteriorated the way in which we treat each other, "Griselda explains and adds:" I want it because it's my daughter's father and of course we have shared several years together, but I have not been happy with it for a long time. "

"At some point I will end my relationship with Enrique, I know that what I do is wrong and that I am playing with fire because my daughter is involved, but I have not had the courage to leave him, he makes me feel important and that I am valuable to him ", says Griselda and after a slight exhalation she concludes:" There are days that I think if Javier does the same as me and has a relationship with another. The truth is that I am very confused and I do not know where to start ordering my life. "

The expert points out that to stop being a woman unfaithful it is necessary to find the reason for acting in this way, because the search for a secondary link is a clear signal that there are shortcomings and dissatisfactions, to which a substantive solution must be given, so that the secondary unions do not continue to happen and, conversely, the gaps and needs of each are covered.

Can a relationship be saved if one of the two has been unfaithful ? Hans Olvera answers that yes it is possible, but that you have to solve the couple's problems through therapy , you have to work and get the sorry , the repair of the damage, in addition to re meaning the concept of couple, as well as that both parties assume their co-responsibility in the fact, without denial or pretexts, and finally, communicate the way in which they live their relationship. "Know yourself, sculpt your character" . For more information, write to: bojorge@teleton.org.mx

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