• May 15, 2024

One of the worst things that can exist within a partner is the distrust , which causes not only jealousy but also that you want to have the person all the time for you. To identify if this is your case, there are certain signs that you are possessive in your relationship

Maybe everything was perfect at first, but often destructive dynamics within the relationship, how to be possessive , they are formed slowly and over time, which makes them a complicated "trap" to escape, say specialists from the Santa Clara University .

Excuses of love

If inside your relationship it seems complicated to identify if you are possessive , we share the signs to which you must pay attention and that they give you away.

1. You are very demanding. There are issues where you can make requests, but if you want to demand your boyfriend know all your passwords or ask for details of their activities , you do not respect their individuality .

2. You call him all the time. You feel the need to know "almost" every minute what you do, so your calls and messages exceed your possibilities even to answer you, due to meetings or other commitments.

3. You want me to always be with you If you are with him all the time, to the extent that he can not attend a meeting if he is not accompanied with you, and vice versa. It puts you on Bad mood Even if you visit your family, experts from the Santa Clara University .

4. You alter easily. For example, when you see the call of an unknown number and you prefer to be the one who answers to "avoid problems". There is a fine line between possessiveness and the jealousy which is easy to cross, indicates Laura Berman , psychologist and author of "It's not him, it's you" .

5. You leave your things at home. It's good that they had the opportunity to live together , but if deliberately (without agreeing with him) you leave things in your house so that your visitors know that you have a partner , you are being possessive and invasive of your space (which is not yours yet).

6. You hate going out with your friends. They bother you in a strong way the parties or meetings where your friends are present, even if you attend as partner of your boyfriend; and the situation worsens if you have or prefer to attend alone.

7. You punish him. If you have an attitude that does not seem appropriate, look for some way to punish him : stop talking or maybe stop seeing him until he asks for "forgiveness".

8. You use blackmail. You do not have flexibility , or an empathetic response to the decisions he makes and do not like, so you try to convince him to change his mind under Pressure , threats or trying to ingratiate, indicates Graciela Moreschi , author psychiatrist "If the other one changed" .

9. You make fun of him. You noticed that when you express your opinion on your part there is only laughter or disapproving comments about what you think or feel, is your subconscious looking for his freedom decrease.

10. You feel that you can not live without him. This more than affect him, it hurts you. If when you are alone or away from your partner you feel that you need it to live, in a way that hurts, you're not only possessive , you are entering a more complicated stage of codependence .

It is not easy to identify actions that are excused in the love , but you must be the most objective when evaluating your behavior towards your partner because only then can you identify the signs that you are possessive in your relationship If you have questions, go to a specialist.

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