Do you often scold your partner?

• May 5, 2024

Problems in communication are one of the main reasons that lead to the failure of a marriage, even over the infidelity. And nagging is exactly the kind of toxic communication that can destroy a relationship.

The interaction in which a person repeatedly makes a request and the other person repeatedly ignores it, for which there is usually a scolding or complaint, is a problem that at some point faces a relationship of a couple. This is now known as nagging.

The term nagging, which can be translated as a mixture of "nagging", "nagging", "insisting" and "growling", always carries a negative nuance, while the insistence ends up devouring the cordiality of the couple's relationship.

The naggers they do not dialogue, but they order and scold, sometimes with superior airs, in addition to criticizing non-stop and tend to generalize, which not only damages good communication in the couple's relationship, but undermines the confidence and self-esteem of the person who receives the scolding.

"The feeling that the scold has is that everything is wrong and that his partner behaves as his father would have done. That is, one sends, the other obeys within a couple relationship, "says the psychoanalyst Edward S. Dean.

This process is usually the product of a situation in which characteristic people participate, while the scolding is usually straight, but also weak, insecure and fearful, the scolded usually accept their guilt and show much self-control.
 

Scott Wetzler , psychologist and vice president of Department of Psychiatry and Behavior Sciences at the Montefiore Medical Center in New York, He explains that "scolding the couple happens when we have the impression that we are not going to get what we want from that person, so we feel we have to complain to get it."

In this way a vicious circle is formed, in which neither the person who scolds, nor the person who ignores, stop or correct the problem. To such a degree that they no longer know why they scold or are scolded.

"Scolding is an enemy of love, if you allow this behavior to persist", as determined Howard Markman, professor of psychology at the University of Denver , in his study published in the Journal of Family Psychology, the only way out for the couple's relationship is to learn positive communication or, failing that, the definitive separation.

If you want to know more about this and other conflicts facing the relationships of contemporary couples, do not miss the new TV series from Monday to Friday Chain Three: Sweet Bitter. When is love no longer enough?

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