• April 18, 2024

Not all mothers in law who have the joy of seeing their children with a Relationship , they spend a moment reflecting - and it does not matter if they are in the stage of courtship or marriage, they are 20 or 50 years old - about what they can provoke with reckless comments when they are with them at Christmas.

Stpehan B. Poulter, author of El legado de las Madres, Editorial Urano , explains that when a mother in law , at Christmas or always, maintains an indiscreet, disrespectful and controlling attitude, can cause several side effects in the partner , as insecurity, anger, resentment, even generate some emotional instability in both due to comparisons.

Under Scrutiny

"The mother in law perfectionist is an overly controlling woman, apprehensive and full of anxiety, "explains Stpehan B. Poulter and adds:" Women are emotionally driven by the need to be good to others and to have ultimate control of the appearance of things in their world. On the surface, this mother it looks and acts as if it were the center of the universe, as if it had no visible concern. "

It is important to think about the way in which those attitudes that bring discord and problems to the breast can be changed family , particularly at Christmas, and that can be a real attack against tranquility and good coexistence.

Stpehan B. Poulter states that the style does exist maternal positive, that far from attracting discord as a vigorous magnet, builds strong ties of affection and bonds between each of the members, this style is that which resides in some fundamental virtues, emotional, mental and psychological as:

1. Understanding
2. Building secure links
3. Empathy
4. Compassion
5. Emotional presence

Avoiding the play of superficial comparisons such as seasoning in dishes, taste for decoration or dedication to make ornaments, even deeper and more sensitive topics for all, can be a valuable beginning to generate positive change.

In addition, these types of attitudes benefit not only the relationship with the daughter-in-law or son-in-law , also with the children, since the way in which they are linked with their partner , is a clear sign of love and interest.

Collaboration of Fundación Teletón México. "Empathy: It makes us feel the feelings of others". bojorge@teleton.org.mx
 

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