• May 2, 2024

The infidelity is one of the most painful experiences in a relationship that costs so much forgive Y forget . We feel a mixture of anger and resentment, followed by frustration and helplessness that ends up breaking the trust and, in many cases, ends with love and relationship.

Mark D. White, head of the philosophy department at the College of Staten Island , says that infidelity makes us feel pain because it has to do with deception because when you promise something to your partner you have the obligation to fulfill it, not because of a social norm or expectation, but because love Y respect .

It has even become a common practice that is on the rise as evidenced by an investigation of the Faculty of Psychology and the Institute of Social Research of the National Autonomous University of Mexico (UNAM) .

Wounds that heal

Unfortunately this is an experience that many couples are currently experiencing, whose impact wears away because of the anger to guilt , of the negation to acceptance, from aggression to sadness and then to decision making.

Regardless of what you decide forgive or finish with your partner , replenishing yourself is a process that takes weather , because GetQoralHealth shares five techniques for heal a loving deception .

1. Desahógate. Talking about the subject with people of your total confidence or with whom you have lived the same situation is good to calm the spirits.

The Dr. Matthew Lieberman, researcher at the University of California Los Angeles , says that talking about negative feelings activates a part of the brain responsible for controlling impulses.

2. Identify the cause. The problems of communication , the revenge , money, sexual dissatisfaction, lack of love , physical attraction, are some of the reasons for committing infidelity, says a study of the UNAM . Knowing why it happened will make you feel more calm.

3. An infidel will always be. The psychologist Rocío Arocha affirms that a person who wants to commit infidelity will do so regardless of the bond with his partner, so the infidel will always be, do not blame yourself.

4. Do not victimize yourself. The role of victim in all cases it is manipulator and reflects low self esteem , says the psychologist Jorge Olguín . In the face of a betrayal, it is not very helpful for you to self-inflict tears or to cry over something that has already happened and you can not change it because it will only take away the mental clarity to overcome it.

5. Forgive from the heart. People are wrong, after a deception is so much the anger that clouds our mind, but forgiveness leads us to forget and there are more benefits. According to a study of Duke University Medical Center when the pain decreases.

It is also advisable to search activities recreational, reflect and to be in contact with other people. Are you willing to overcome a love deception? o How have you overcome a betrayal?