• April 26, 2024

You spend part of your free time with him, he is your confidant, he accompanies you everywhere, but when you look at him with another girl you can not stand the jealousy ? Fall in love with your best friend it may not be the best option; However, how to avoid it?

"Friends think they know everything and are too involved with the other person, because they share everything." This makes one or both parties susceptible to developing a deeper affection or desire: love ", explains the psychologist Óscar Urzagasti .

That your heart does not beat for him

From friendship to passion loving there is a step. And those who give it can risk the existing relationship or enrich it. Although, if you do not want to risk, here are some keys to avoid falling in love with your "best friend" .

1. Define your emotions. For him sociologist Francesco Alberoni, falling in love is an event that has a definite beginning and, in its origin, manifests as a glare, an initial revelation. Instead, the friendship , it becomes such through a series of successive encounters and deepenings.

2. Be careful with your body language. Make sure you do not use gestures to express sensuality and charm. Avoid eating and drinking near your friend.

3. Be realistic. Laura Ruíz, expert in emotional issues, points out that in many occasions, what happens is that we idealize the other person and consider him or her the partner perfect to share our life.

4. Understanding, but not attraction. Alberoni indicates that love is a mixture of friendship and sexual attraction . So when one has a friend, 50% for the relationship of partner he already has it. The problem occurs when sexual attraction is not reciprocal.

5. On the move. Do activities that allow you to put distance between you and your friend. This space will allow you to see the situation in a more objective way.

6. Avoid obsession. Remove from your mind thoughts as they are: "if it is not with him it will not be with anyone", "fate united us for something", "deep down we are soulmates". Do activities that allow you to keep your mind distracted by other ideas.

For the psychologist Elizabeth Ordóñez, The attentions of a friend can be confused with signs of love. However, you should always be objective with yourself and, above all, honest.

Remember that your health is in your hands. Beware!