• April 25, 2024

What if he likes me? It is a very common question when someone who interests us invites us to leave. However, at this moment it is when you are most sure of yourself to give the best impression of yourself.

When you think you're not going to like nobody reflects only a low self-esteem, that is, you rate yourself as bad and do not do it only in relation to the couple, but with anyone, explains Mario Guerra, relationship expert at Match.com

"They are distortions of the mind. This mind that learned to judge you in the way others did. It is more evident if your parents judged you, belittled you or were too demanding of you and made you feel that you would never be perfect. "

So when you establish a romantic relationship with someone, the first thing that comes to your mind is: "you will not like it", "you're not that pretty", "you're not that interesting", "you're not funny".

These thoughts make you very tense and behave strangely and have choppy conversations, half awkward attitudes, concern for appearance and do not look the other in the eye, he explains in an interview to GetQoralHealth .

Take your mask off!

When we are about to start a relationship, we all want to show our best side. But sometimes, because of the fear of not pleasing the person we like, that face ends up becoming a mask to hide our true Self that we consider unacceptable or insufficient.

Some people manipulate the truth about tastes, habits, but there are also those who openly lie about their family, income, the place where they live or what they have studied.

Anyone would think that the objective of this is to deceive or make fun of the other, but the reality is that there are many people who fear showing themselves as they are for fear that it does not correspond to their love.

This is still a bit absurd; that is, if we lie on fundamental issues about our way of being, the person who falls in love with us will not really do it, but will be in love with the person we have drawn and who we definitely are not.

It is best to show yourself as you are. If there are parts of you with which you do not feel completely satisfied, seek to improve them but do not try to become who you are not in order to please someone else.

To achieve this, Mario Guerra recommends choosing the thoughts that help you grow and eliminate those that give a negative perspective or that do not correspond with reality.

Another way to improve your relationship and increase your self esteem is to go with a specialist to help you find the solution to your problem.

It also takes into account that "not everyone you like will like you and not all the people who like you will like it".

"Remember that of every 10 attempts to search for a partner, only three will be successful, and of those we must see what a relationship is about", concludes Mario Guerra.