Sexual desire and men

In the popular imagination, it is assumed that men constantly have sexual thoughts. According to the Spanish psychologist José Bustamante, author of the book "What do men think?", It is not true that men are always obsessed with sex or that they always have sexual desire on fire.

According to a study published in the Journal of Sex Research in 2011 , the number of thoughts of young men about sex amounted to 19 times per day, while in women there was an average of 10.

 

Sexual desire and men

Fernando Villadangos, clinical psychologist, couple therapist, president of the society of sexology Al-Garaia, and author of the book "Male sexuality: men or titans?", states that "one of the most frequent problems we face in our profession is the lack of male desire.

"In many cases, they feel the pressure too much. Many men are shocked that a woman may have more desire for sex than he does. They still cling to their traditional role and are a bit bewildered. "

According to the experts consulted, the fear of failing is at the base of most problems of desire of men: fear of losing an erection, premature ejaculation, the size is not enough, that she does not enjoy. And, obviously, we must also add the stress that causes a decrease in testosterone.

 

What is behind male desire?

According to the doctor Bustamante, it is true that before man practiced sex for pleasure; nevertheless, he warns, it is shown that there are several reasons behind male desire.

"Sometimes men look for sex to feel loved, to make sure that the relationship continues to work, to check that despite the discussions and problems, the relationship is not endangered. Many men use sex to balance deficiencies, when they feel frustrated because things are not going well, "says Bustamante.

On the other hand, given that men have not been taught or have not learned to express their feelings with the ease with which most women do, "sex, for us, is often the only way to say it. Despite the coldness that we can sometimes show, we are also capable of loving, falling in love and if women listen to us, I assure you that we bleed, "says the expert.

Are men excited by just pressing a button? Experts say that this is a myth and that male sexuality is as complex as female sexuality.

Statistics say that more than 95% of the population will suffer a sexual difficulty at some point in their life and 60% will end up developing a sexual problem.

According the sexologist Juan Carlos Kusnetzoff , "The normal adult man usually has an erectile dysfunction every five or six attempts of intercourse"; so the real man should not be able to get an erection with any woman, at any time and in any situation.
 


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