Sex education in childhood

What do the terms "sex education" refer to?

Sex education it is a process of information and integral formation, reproduction, gender identity , affective circle Y eroticism, that allows the human being to live their responsible experiences and fully from birth to death.

The sexuality Adulthood is the result of a whole process of bio-psycho-social development that begins with birth. Therefore, it is necessary to recognize the importance of a sex education Timely and honest.

There is a slogan in Mexico that parents should wait for children to ask first about sex . There are people who never ask! If we take this literally, maybe the children wait for the parents to open the subject.

Sometimes, children think they defraud their parents if they ask first. Parents should know that since babies are born, you can talk about sex with them. This is so that parents, who have understood how to approach the subject, will become familiar with the correct words.

There are many parents who feel that their children are still young to talk with them about the subject, and are often scared to hear them say words or dialogues with sexual content when at home they never talked about it.

If I can not even say these words myself, how do I pretend to educate my son in the sexuality ?

Nowadays we are used to getting things right away and we are not able to give each activity its own time. Perhaps the child is even bathed or dried "quickie" or you have fear to hurt the baby and barely have contact skin to skin with the. These are in fact non-verbal messages about your sexuality . Parents should enjoy this contact.

There is also a big difference between the sex education explicit and where things are not spoken. Most people say they did not have sex education, but we all had it. The difference is that some of their parents helped them build a responsible and healthy sexuality grounded in their family values, and others grew up having doubts, feeling bad, generating guilt and asking other ignorant people like us; growing like this with something secret, hidden, taboo. Fortunately we have advanced a lot in this aspect.

Does having more or less information about sexuality necessarily have to do with socio-economic strata?

No, it definitely has nothing to do with socio-economic levels. This is a time when the media open up information about sexuality . In this way, low-income people have access to this information.

The language of adolescents is also influenced by the mass media, something that can not be subtracted because they are part of their world.

Hence the appropriateness of setting limits and talking about house rules. Also as a father or a mother, it is worth saying how I feel in front of you, my child, before certain contents on television, radio, written media and the Internet.

The accompaniment of adults on the experiences of children with the media at all ages is very important. All children are different. Some allow themselves to be accompanied more than others, but a small intervention or rescuing a scene is basic for their future emotional development.

Something that has been lost now is the ability to empathize, to attend to the feelings of the other. To be able to put oneself in someone else's shoes is to show empathy. This theme also enters into what is respect for the other and will necessarily have to do with sexuality.

 

How is sexual abuse defined?

The sexual abuse is when an older person explores, touches and / or stimulates genitals of a child so physical Y erotica . Either with or without the consent of the minor, as a child is not sufficiently qualified to make decisions of this type before an adult.

The abuser is legally considered as of 12 years of age.

It is very important to know what is an abuse of what is a sexual game between children, although there is some difference in age.

How to prevent sexual abuse in young children?

Information is the ideal means to do so. If you do not have sexual information, you can not be prevented. A victim of violation She feels silly for allowing everything to happen. So he anger it is towards the parents for not having informed him.

Sometimes children think it's an exciting game that carries a secret. When he realizes (by the reaction of the adult before what happened), that he was abused, then he suffers from the feeling that they took advantage of them. They kept a secret and now they feel dirty because they have felt pleasure and they know they are victims of abuse.

This process of abuse is what hurts because they feel victims for life. Currently they are no longer called "victims" of sexual abuse, but "survivors" of it.

 

What then are the most important steps towards the prevention of abuse?

1.- Inform 2.- Be open to answer questions 3.- If the child does not ask, the adult should cover the possible doubts 4.- Put limits: a) I can bathe you adult, put cream on you and take care of you b ) As a child you can say "no" when you disagree with the proximity of another person, be it a kiss, a hug or tickle. 5.- Differentiate sexual games of sexual abuse: a) It is only allowed with your peer group (children or girls of your same age), only if you agree, only if they do not get hurt b) If someone bigger than you wants to touch you and you disagree, say so

There is a group of women who, because they have been sexually abused, distrust the adult in general and if this is not treated through therapy, it leads them to live distrustfully, fearing for no reason for the integrity of their children and thus the children grow suspicious of a hostile world .

If they do not exceed their experience, they transfer it to their children. Sometimes without having been abused, sexual terrorism is given through tendentious and intimidating information.

What should be done in case of suspected sexual abuse?

 

  1. It is important that the child does not witness all the intensity that the experience of abuse entails. The child does not know that he has been abused, from there he has his first notion of abuse and this will mark his life
  2. The child feels guilty about what he or she did to their family nucleus
  3. It is recommended to coldly review all alternatives before acting
  4. Sometimes it is thought that it is important to attend to legal matters, but first psychological support must be given to the child
  5. Do not prosecute the child, do not confront him, he is not guilty of not saying anything. Let him speak respecting his rhythm, avoiding intrusive questioning
  6. Not to inform the child of everything that will be done as a legal procedure or of the desire to physically attack the abuser
  7. Explain that this makes the family feel sad and angry, but that he is not to blame
  8. Explain that you will attend a legal and therapeutic process
  9. Not to victimize, that is, not to leave a special place of victim in the family, because over time, this makes impossible the healthy elaboration of the trauma of having been abused

What would be the recommendations to the parents?

They should know that:

  1. Sex education begins at birth
  2. The brain and all the skin are the main sexual organs and therefore children need to explore sensations
  3. Stay open to questions and comments from your children
  4. Investigate how they were informed of what they now know
  5. Do not worry about the values ​​external to the family, if you parents are giving a good model, your children will have where to imitate it
  6. Sexuality involves talking about reproduction and changes in puberty , but also of emotions, sensations, fantasies and how I relate emotionally and erotically with myself and with others
  7. Do not forget that sexual games in boys and girls are the most natural and serve to build their privacy and sexual confidence. Help them to differentiate sexual games of a sexual abuse

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