Say no to violence in courtship

According to data from the World Health Organization (WHO) , 76% of Mexican women between 15 and 24 years old who have partner , have suffered some kind of violence at engagement , 15% have been victims of physical violence and 16% have lived some experience of sexual attack .

The violence at engagement it is characterized by every action that generates physical, emotional and sexual damage with the purpose of dominating the other person. To obtain control in the relationship, various strategies are used, such as damage to the self esteem , verbal aggressions, emotional blackmail , manipulation and hits.

Claudia Romero Hernández , Advisor of the Women's Institute of the D.F. explains in the following video what the violence at engagement :

In most cases the partner he does not realize that he is being violated because there are external factors that prevent him from seeing what the situation of his relationship is. When you are in love people lose objectivity and the ability to distinguish if violence is exercised against them, as it tends to idealize the partner and confuses aggressive actions with demonstrations of love.


How is violence manifested?

The first step is to identify if there is violence in your relationship. You should analyze how you feel when you are with that person; that is, if you feel comfortable being yourself or on the contrary you have to take care of everything you say and do for fear that your partner be angry and be aggressive with you. The violence at engagement It is developed in stages.

First stage: you partner He starts to insult you, to tell you things you do not like, he forbids you to talk to your friends, etc.

Second stage: I like you physically and emotionally.

Third stage: He looks for reconciliation, feels repentant and promises to change. For a few days he can be very accommodating to you.

Identify if in your relationship there is violence with the following video:

If you identify with any of these stages and above all you realize that this cycle is repeated more than once or that your partner has aggressive episodes of nothing, you are in a violent relationship.

Do not be alarmed! Take it easy and go immediately with a specialist to help you improve your self-esteem and achieve healthier relationships. Do not stay silent! Nobody has the right to violate you.

Video Medicine: ‘Courtship rape’ practice fueling gender based violence in rural areas (June 2020).