Personal performance vs partner relationship

Not all women who solve the tasks of their home and profession are public people, there are thousands of them who make their effort an achievement that only those who know, know. According to National Institute of Statistic and Geography (INEGI) in 2011, 41.8% of women aged 14 and over are part of the economically active population (PEA), of which 95.9% combine their extra-domestic activities with the chores of their house and their Relationship .

The construction of a family demands many elements so that its foundations are firm and among them, it is found to reflect on the erroneous ideas and linked to the fact that the economically active life of a woman threatens the love and stability that exists in a Relationship , and even, it can expose them to live an irremediable rupture, since she "will be very busy".

"Many women are prepared not to subtract masculinity from their partner, if they contribute money to their house," he explains. psychologist Hans Olvera, professor at the Universidad Iberoamericana and adds: "Some who are left without this element of productivity, participate in a dynamic in which it is under their control, the fact of solving many of the wishes and needs that are at home, sometimes, makes them susceptible to live some kind of violence. "

The expert comments that there are men who perceive as an attack on their masculinity the fact that their partner has economic activity, since they respond to the cultural model of what it means to be a man, they perceive the participation of it, as a threat to be the victim of a infidelity , for the simple reason that she will be empowered, she will meet other people, she will want to make decisions in different personal and family areas.

That a woman is economically active, in no way against the project that both initiated, on the contrary, opens the possibility that they see in the other, a partner with which they can solve all the tasks and crystallize their illusions.

"More and more women are generating money, and this means that in a couple relationship there are no roles in which one of the two is dependent and looks more like a brother or father, than a husband or wife, since they achieve the realization of your life project, as a couple ", explains the specialist.

It is important to address participation beyond the economic contribution and be clear that equity is not in the distribution 50 and 50 of the expenses and pending to be resolved, but in the experience of the common life as a space that provides the opportunity to develop, this can be like continuing your academic training, learning a trade or profession, starting a business, among others.

It is a mistake to think that it is impossible to aspire to the joy of sharing, to strive for the fulfillment of achievements and desires, without implying abandoning the partner or herself, on the contrary, the task is to find happiness in each dream fulfilled and look for the balance so that nothing is relegated as well as, that in the mirror is the greatest inspiration.

"Life in common does not have to become an inhibitor of personal life, since its virtue is to be oneself next to the person you love," concludes Hans Olvera. "The principle of being patient is to start with oneself" . If you want to know more information write to bojorge@teleton.org.mx

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