New partner?

April 23, 2024

Having overcome the hard stage of the separation , if you go out with someone because you've decided Redo you lifetime sentimental, probably the next the challenge is how say to you son that you have a new partner ?

This situation may be familiar, since in Mexico there is 4.5 million of single mothers , which represents 9.5% of the total number of mothers in the country, confirms a document of the Chamber of Deputies .

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New partner?

If your new relationship is solid and you are safe that is the man with whom you want to share your life, then it is normal that you feel concern by reaction what will your children when you tell them the news and more when present to you new partner .

Experts suggest that after the separation It is important wait a reasonable time for present the new one partner to the children because it could cause them confusion .

About, Patricia Huelves Izquierdo , sexologist of the State Family Planning Federation in Spain , explains that the key is in living these changes by way of gradual , without them being Drastic ".

In addition, it is important that you finish assimilate the separation to then face the new changes implied by the relationship of mom .

The best time to explain them is when they share a space of leisure or when they make a activity that really are enjoying , that is, when the child is good humor and with the provision of hear .

Before starting, express all the love what you feel for him and what important What it is for you. If your child is sensitive, it will not be easy, especially if he is in the adolescence . Keep the calm and try reply all questions clearly, sincere Y respectful .

The key is in remark him the fact that although the new partner be important, they are what fundamental , the greatest and most valuable of his life, advises Rosa Collado , specialist in integrative psychotherapy Álava Reyes Psychology Center of Madrid , Spain.

You can tell them there are things that you are not prepared for talk and that everyone has the right to have a private life , suggests Rachel Morris in The guide for the single-parent family.

It is important to stress that the fact of forming a New relationship makes them happy as woman , but the new couple is never going to replace the figure of his father biological.

In summary:

Let a weather until the relationship be ripe and with Projects long term to introduce your children to your new partner.
Speaks of the theme with you son before of introduce you your partner. Do not organize a chance meeting.
If you start doing questions about your partner, understand that it is normal I want to know more about that person.
Explain that the treatment , Attention Y love what do you have towards him do not going to change just because you've decided to go out with someone else.
The circumstances Y answer of your child will depend on his age and character. Teens tend to react with more rejection.

If you relationship is more formal and you plan a life next to your new partner It's time to tell him to your son, remember that this decision I also it affects , in fact it's going to be a change radical also for him.