• April 20, 2024

Normally in our daily life we ​​are always exposed to duels , which are a reaction to the loss of anything from objects to relationships, but how can one overcome breakup ?

In an interview for GetQoralHealth, the psychoanalyst María Montaño, specialist of the Patient Assistance Clinic of the Psychoanalytic Society of Mexico (SPM), details that in the case of the loss of partner , mourning implies something bigger, because there are several issues that are involved in this situation.

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The specialist details that a love break is very strong because to the forms a partner the idea of ​​sharing, merging with the other, building something between two arises; therefore, the loss of such valuable things as these involves a difficult and intense grieving process.

Normally, to form a couple there are several processes, so when ending with that special person, the internal losses are very strong among those that are the identity that one builds from the other; The self steem; the social losses that are the activities that are carried out with the partner .

"It's not mourning for partner in itself, but are the internal duels, of the couple, social and even of the most superficial things ". To understand what happens with the breakup of a couple and how to overcome it, one must understand what is involved in a grieving process.

The process of mourning are the attempts or reactions not to lose what we have lost. Many times these reactions have a spectrum of intensity according to the mental energy that is put into the relationship.

In this way, Maria Montaño explains that to overcome a breakup love can follow the following steps:

1. Understand . Find a healthy way out of the reactions and understand what the denial generates and avoid exposure to constant rejection.
2. Carry out a devaluation. With the rupture the former is devalued a lot partner , where the other is the bad and one is the good. That is, the idealization is over.
3. Avoid the attribution of guilty parties. Doing so prevents the person from realizing what he could have done to cause the break.
4. Work on what we did This will help us not to repeat the same pattern.

It is very important to understand that you should not fall into the part of acting by the emotional reaction. What a person has to achieve in order to overcome the breaking off loving is to conserve the good parts of that relationship and look for the functions that that person supplied in new and different aspects. And you, how do you overcome a love break?

Video Medicine: Good grief! What I learned from loss | Elaine Mansfield | TEDxChemungRiver (April 2024).