It's time to say goodbye

Sure you do not want to see me because I get bored, I do not go to the party because your friends see me ugly ... Sometimes out of habit or fear we forget that love builds does not collapse, and we resign ourselves to living with someone who always has a negative attitude.

 

Over time this relationship, which is toxic, begins to permeate aspects of individual development; profession, family and social environment (friends). This is because we think negatives are contagious; the other member of the couple becomes pessimistic too, "says psychologist Javier Arango for GetQoralHealth.

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It's time to say goodbye

Paying more attention to the bad than to the positive is a psychological phenomenon that many times the person can not avoid, although they can work on it. However, if your partner does not want it, for your emotional well-being it is better that you get rid of the relationship.

To decide a separation, the expert Arango advises you the following:

1. Identify the patterns you are repeating. Analyze if this is your first negative partner and what takes you to be with her; What makes you feel.

2. Do not accept their fears. Express with him what you feel but do not let yourself be carried away by his comments.

3. Reflect on the common traits you have with him, and work on it.

4. Start to resume your rhythm of life, friendships, work and other activities.

5. Think about what you want, and what you need to do for it.

6. What is your self-esteem?

 

Being with a negative partner can damage the relationship in different ways: it creates situations of anxiety and stress for both members; if the negativity is directed towards the couple and not only to the facts that they live, it can generate a dynamic of criticism and contempt that not only deteriorates the relationship but the self-esteem of the two. "