• April 24, 2024

"I do not like your dramas." Is this phrase familiar? Many times, throughout life and relationships that are already familiar, sentimental or professional, you have the belief that you are living a novel where there are good and bad. This causes emotions to be expressed incorrectly or unclearly.

For the emotional therapist and author of the text "Relate yourself without drama with your partner", Nuria Suárez Castro, learning the art of living without exaggerations or melodramas does not mean that you should hide your emotions or accept with submission what the other expresses, it is simply to handle what you feel.

How to know that your emotions are not part of a scene?

Suárez Castro suggests that this arises, in most cases, when we do not perceive the moment in which anger or sadness arises and these feelings are allowed to continue and accumulate until they can not be controlled and explode in an unpleasant scene. for you and your partner.

To prevent it, the expert offers you four signals that will help you to know if you express your emotions or simply make dramas:

1. You only recognize your emotions when they have accumulated. "They always do the same to me."

2. You can not trace the origin of your discomfort, you digress in the past and you stir up many issues that bother you. There are so many points that you do not think there are solutions.

3. You accuse others for what you feel. "You make me angry, you do it by hurting me."

4. The way you exaggerate what you feel generates more misunderstandings, your anger makes you more angry, your sadness sinks you deeper and deeper.

5. After screaming what you feel or crying, you feel worse, since you can not explain why you feel this way and how things could improve.

The best solution to avoid this situation is to have better knowledge about yourself. Remember your health is in your hands.