How do you project?

The attitudes learned from the childhood determine, in a great way, life adult and the way you relations with others, there are even certain behaviors of childhood that ruin the relationship of partner .

 

The addiction emotional children with the parents it manifests itself in the development of couple relationships during adult life; when the father is absent , the children as they grow they develop greater fear of abandonment Y fear to the commitment" , confirms a study in charge of Yossi Guttman and Amnon Lazar, researchers from the University of Haifa .

 

How do you project?

Although it seems a very repeated phrase, what learned in the childhood is a brand with which he lives all life and alters behavior, in such a way that it has a powerful influence on relations of partner .

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Mila Cahue , psychologist of couple of Psychology Center in Madrid Spain , help to identify 5 behaviors of the childhood what ruin you relationship and that it is possible to change to build a mature and as happy relationship as possible.

1. Be careless. If the parents seemed the same as you did all right or wrong the things , without indicating to you that doing them incorrectly would lead to double or triple effort, your life in partner goes straight to the discussions because it is tired share with someone who does not care about doing things, who is careless or does not put the minimum effort so that everything goes well, explains Cahue .

2. Bad character. Cahue affirms that the tantrums of the childhood that the parents tolerated, as a couple unbearable , however, you can modify that temperament because you are not born with good or bad character , but it's going molding , so that everyone chooses what is and how we want to treat and be treated.

3. Inferiority complex. If you do not consider yourself worthy of being loved because you think you're not pretty enough or for other reasons, it will be very difficult for you to keep a relationship of respect Y admiration , because that is the message that you are reflecting towards him. If you do not accept, it is difficult for others to accept you.

4. Submission If you consider that the only way to maintain your relationship is to say "yes" to everything, you will never be happy because you will always fear the clashes , problems or abandonment . The negative part is that, the day that burst so feeling accumulated, your partner will not take it seriously.

5. Perfectionism. This feature in conjunction with the partner it's devastating because nobody is perfect and trying to be it triggers lies or numerous requirements from you and towards you partner , nothing pleasant situation, on the contrary it is the direct pass to the rejection, distrust , as well as wear physical and emotional.

Calhue explain what Modify these behaviors is the best antidote to form relations durable, mature and satisfactory, otherwise that will remain "girl" dissatisfied .


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