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It is inevitable to associate the feeling of guilt, pain and deep discomfort, however, it would be unfair to label it as undesirable since by its nature it can be a valuable emotional tool.

The psychologist Hans Olvera , academic of the Ibeoamerican University, explains that guilt is a feeling that is installed in the first six years of life, which has a valuable function, since it serves as self-regulation of behavior.

Thanks to this, you can differentiate according to the scale of values ​​and personal moral, what is good from the bad and if necessary, make up for the damage caused or correct any situation.

The specialist clarifies that we all experience it and that because it is a necessary mechanism for regulating behavior, there is no reason to think of it as an adverse feeling, since it allows us to discover an act of evil or an incorrect attitude and, consequently, provides The live the opportunity to seek forgiveness.

 

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"The problem is when the feeling of guilt is associated with obedience, control mechanisms and blackmailer behavior. When a person is conditioned his behavior in order to receive approval in exchange, the mechanism does not operate correctly, which leads to it being expressed in different ways, "explains the expert.

Because it is installed in childhood and fed in adolescence, the origin of the feeling of guilt in each person responds to their life story, so it is necessary to make a deep reflection on the way in which it manifests.

Some forms are through self-sabotage, that is, attacks in which the person compromises their own success or personal well-being, inadequate self-esteem, maintaining relations of violence, without hope of leaving them, feeling unworthy of a better quality of life , among others.

In the voice of the expert, some people can manifest it if they avoid changes in some area of ​​their lives, which involve receiving some kind of reward, overcome or crystallize an outstanding situation for themselves, "I consult a person who seeks to reveal the reasons for the that he has not accepted to resume his life as a couple after their separation; It is important that you discover the feelings that were generated from that event and the reasons why you have renounced this. "

Finally, the specialist explains that the most difficult step is to recognize that you have and have the will to undertake reflection, discover the way in which you operate and thus have the legitimate opportunity to repair emotional ties, seek forgiveness, heal the Damage done and consciously aspire to a better quality of life."Prudence empowers your words" Bojorge@teleton.org.mx


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