"Envy of the good" does not exist

• April 25, 2024

The Spanish philosopher Miguel de Unamuno said that "envy is a thousand times more terrible than hunger, because it is spiritual hunger." If you believe, or are of those who think that "healthy" envy exists, you should know that this secret suffering for the good of others, that we have all felt at some time and that has brought us more than one discomfort, disgust and pain It is always pernicious.

Envy is a feeling that should be accepted as one of those we feel, but it should start to worry us when envy becomes pathological and interferes with the person's life, when that feeling possesses the individual, diminishes their self-esteem and incapacitated to lead a healthy life.

The ancient Greeks defined the word envy as "the pain caused by the good luck of someone who resembles us" and the history of humanity is full of episodes where envious and cruel characters abound.

What is really envy?

In the opinion of Dr. Lilia Joya, professor at the Faculty of Psychology of the National Autonomous University of Mexico (FP-UNAM), envy is a feeling of impotence that is generated in an individual as a result of not achieving what he so longs for and that another person has been able to obtain.

Intense feeling

"This feeling is experienced when something is very intensely desired, which can be from a material good, professional, academic achievements, even to the emotional stability of a person, and for different reasons it has not been possible to achieve it. Beyond assuming that envy is synonymous with courage or hatred towards the individual who possesses the desired good, it translates into desire to possess and not necessarily in the desire to deprive that person of something. However, the latter can occur when the object in question is the only one, "says the specialist

How to transform envy to your own advantage

Experts believe that envy should not be allowed to grow in oneself. They recommend stopping and using envy as fuel to overcome and achieve what is wanted. How? Reflect the situation, be honest with yourself (admit that the behavior is wrong), use the empathy (put yourself in the place of the other), learn to conform to what you have (especially the good); concentrate and not compare one's life with that of the other; value yourself (work to raise self-esteem), be courageous (in the face of defeat, face life with serenity) and confess, that is, talk with someone you trust, help.

Do not get "green" with envy, we better learn to overcome the more negative side.
 

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