Difference of ages in a relationship

• April 24, 2024

In recent years, the term has been coinedCougar ', Which refers to the difference in ages in a relationship applied to women who decide to join couples noticeably less than them.

Hans Olvera, psychologist and professor at the Universidad Iberoamericana , explains that the difference in ages is a factor to consider when there is a gap of 5 years, and states that there is couples They have a difference of even 20 years or more.

The expert says that not all cases work when they have this characteristic; However, it is important to avoid stereotyping as loves destined to fail.

In some cases, women assume a certain degree of behavior maternal ; that is, that they exercise control in the relationship , and dictate how and when things are done; allocate economic resources, as well as decide the times that their partner dedicate to friends and family.

"When we analyze the situation in depth, the boy is immersed in a sphere of power in which he has yielded personal ground ", explains the specialist and adds:" There are also couples in which she exercises dominance in relationship openly, so it exercises psychological, emotional and / or economic violence , besides that it has a wide control about what happens between them. "

Why younger?

In this respect, Hans Olvera states that one of the fantasies who meet this type relations is to counteract the emotional impact produced by aging and experience emotions of youth.
In addition, he says that although it is true that power is inherent in any relationship , also it is that its balance generates that there is or not an equitable atmosphere, that requires of agreements.

"The fact of getting involved with a younger person involves making adjustments in the lifestyle of both, with all that this means: the moment and the physical, psychological and moral condition of each one in the present and what will be the immediate or distant future. This is essential so they can build a life project together. "
 

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