• April 18, 2024

In accordance with Costasur Psychology , people who are "perfectionists", have often had a difficult childhood, where they were criticized negatively and this leads them to an obsession of doing things well, to extremes exaggerated, in addition to feeling fear and insecurity. Therefore in GetQoralHealth , we present some ways to identify the perfectionist attitude and maintain control in your day to day.

At work

1. Give priority to work situations at all times, do not enjoy a moment of tranquility.
2. Continuously criticizes and generates an atmosphere of tension, justifies it as "efficiency" or "good results".

Psychologists of Alhambra Center , recommend stopping for a moment to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself: why do I act like this? What scares me? and finally, am I a perfectionist?

Body image

1. He sees the food as an enemy, (counts the amounts ingested, reproaches if he ate "something else").
2. Strongly criticizes the physical aspect, and makes constant reference to the ideal of thinness.

According to the Ministry of Health (Ssa) , from the federal government, it is estimated that between 0.5% and. 1.5% of the general population suffers from anorexia and 3% bulimia. It is normal to want to reach goals regarding our weight in favor of health or appearance; nevertheless, to deposit your self-esteem in the achievements that are obtained when losing weight in extreme situations like stopping to eat or to realize intense physical activity; it goes from being something beneficial to being a health problem.

During sex

The psychologist Raquel Ballesteros , indicates that reflecting and debating sexual behavior with the partner is positive; However, in a relationship where they live and share, it is difficult to maintain control.

Harmful thoughts during the intimate encounter:

• "I should always like my sexual partner"
• "Being successful in my sexual relationships is the result of my manhood or femininity"
• "In sex it is obligatory to be creative and fulfill all the fantasies of my partner"

The problem is that while you are in the intimate moment with your partner, your mind has recurrent thoughts about whether you are "doing it right", "I have to reach orgasm", "I'll see the extra pounds", thoughts that prevent enjoy the moment with your partner. Ballesteros, recommends avoiding the words "should", and "I have to"; since they prevent us from relaxing, sex is also imperfect.

The human being is not perfect

An investigation carried out by theNational Institute of Mental Health, in the United States, it reveals that people with a higher level of perfectionism progress less in the treatment of depression, because they interpret small successes as failures.

Being a perfectionist has a positive aspect: there is a high capacity for concentration: the negative aspect is in the way that others are criticized or criticized, because they consider that an error or loss of strict discipline is the worst that can happen and a unforgivable failure.

Remember to organize your time, take a more positive and accessible perspective where you accept the "healthy human imperfection" and each mistake is part of a learning. The human being is imperfect, he makes mistakes and that does not make him lose value, or "being a failure", he practices tolerance with yourself and others.