Are you talking bad about your ex-partner?

• April 25, 2024

When a romantic relationship is terminated, pain may cause some people to speak ill of their ex-partner. However, it is important not to get carried away by anger and stay calm, because in time both trusted in the other to open their feelings.

In some cases, expressing oneself badly about a former partner can be a reaction of relief for the breakdown of the relationship, especially when the decision was not made by mutual agreement.

Therefore, who had to accept the resolution, may be tempted to highlight the defects of the other person and comment in some nearby social circles that could affect the image of his ex-partner; even, in the most serious cases, things are invented to harm the other.

"When the wound is deep, you should seek the help of a specialist to overcome the duel," says Marina López, a psychologist specializing in relationships , of the National Autonomous University of Mexico .

The main reason why you should not speak ill of a former partner is because, at some point, that person had points in common with you and there are many good things that you liked at first and that will continue to exist.

"The couple breaks should be taken as learning that make us grow, each of these teachings become fundamental, because they serve as a precedent that helps us in the future to know what we want and not in our relationships; also, always serves to know oneself, "says the expert.

"The best thing is to respect the life of the former couple, without resentment and not get carried away by the bad time, turn the page and continue. If someone asks the reason for the break, if it is not a very close person, it is best not to give too many details, because on many occasions, this serves to make gossip around the break.
 

Remember that it is much healthier to try to remember the good moments of the old relationships and learn from the bad ones so that they do not happen again. Have respect for the information of your ex-partner, speak well of you."Self-esteem is the strength of your voice." bojorge@teleton.org.mx

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