Are you ready for death?

In life what is certain in all times, cultures and social strata is the death ; This is part of life, so it is not fortuitous that throughout history has been and is the subject of deep reflections, ranging from religion and philosophy to psychology. But how to deal with death?

Man faces the loss of a loved one through a process known as mourning. This is an intrapsychic process following the loss by means of which the subject progressively detaches himself from said loss.

In other words, it is a set of somatic and psychic reactions that seek to restore balance after a loss.

After a loss it is normal to lose some interest in the outside world, because all energy is overwhelmed by pain, until little by little in a normal duel, the subject is detached from that pain, seeking balance and recovery from the trauma experienced.

There are several authors who talk about the process of mourning, who generally describe the following phases through which the subject who has lived a loss passes to finally reestablish himself and achieve a balance again.


  1. Phase 1: The loss occurs.
  2. Phase 2: Upon learning of the loss, the subject reacts with rejection to the news. This process can be extended for a long time, in which the person is slowly taking the data of his reality judgment.
  3. Phase 3: Later he accepts the loss first at an intellectual level and, little by little, at an emotional level.
  4. Phase 4: There is a state of shock or stupor, a state of immobility or disconnection due to the identification with the loss.
  5. Phase 5: Little by little all the energy put into the person who died is withdrawn from it, the mind of the deceased no longer only thinks of the deceased and the pain, but gradually becomes interested in the things of life and thus, the person he integrates his memories with the one who died.
  6. Phase 6: It is integrated more and more into the routine of life and again finds lost homeostasis.

In a situation of mourning, these are the most common manifestations:

  1. An acute perception of pain
  2. Anguish
  3. Feeling of loss or lack
  4. Often a painful emptiness is felt
  5. The subject usually occupies his mind in thoughts related to the one who lost.
  6. An identification with who has lost.
  7. The feeling of loss is usually accompanied by crying, which serves as a relief, and also as a way to communicate sadness to others, so family and friends respond and help the subject in this process.
  8. Subjects tend to externalize their pain and represent it with mourning clothes depending on their culture.
  9. The rituals also, depending on the cultures, help to cope and to elaborate this situation of mourning. They also help to clearly emphasize the reality of death fighting against denial.

The approximate duration of this process is usually one year and its purpose is that the subject manages to detach progressively from the lost object. If the deep sadness and inability to restore the life and daily routine of the person in mourning is more than the year, then it is a pathological duel, for which professional support is recommended. And you, in how much time have you overcome the loss of a family member?

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