6 tips to strengthen your relationship

• April 19, 2024

Be mothers or parents It is a psychological process that never ends. Although our children be Adults , we always want to protect them, take care of them and, in many cases, control them.

When you find out about a serious problem with your son , associated with some self-destructive behavior how addiction , obesity , anorexy , bad choices of partner , an economic or professional failure, to mention examples; the usual thing is to start a process that goes through the following stages:

1. Impact : we usually feel absolutely guilty and responsible. These feelings are, in addition to overwhelming, irrational. The parents We tend to blame ourselves excessively for the self-destructive behaviors of our children .  

2. Confrontation with reality : little by little we are accepting that our son It is not that ideal model we have in mind. It is a very painful but indispensable process.

3. Action : the mother is usually the first to seek help. A rehabilitation clinic, a psychotherapist, money, etc. Ideally, the parents go to therapy.

4. Acceptance of the limits : realize that no matter how much we want, we can not "save" our children themselves. Admit that we are not totally responsible. Admit that maybe they do not even want our help.

5. Autonomy : the mother and the father, at best, return to live their lives and take care of their own affairs, it may be that there is sadness and pain but at the end they stop trying to control the behavior of their son . In this stage, recovery begins and the path towards mental health.

6. Connection : the mother manages to reconnect with him from another perspective, it is recognized that he is already an adult, that he is solely responsible for his behavior, and a new and mature relationship with him emerges.

When a son adult blames his parents Because of his self-destructive behavior, nothing helps him more than making him responsible for them. Give her conditioned help and say something similar to this: "I'm sorry that it was not for you the mother you wanted, I did the best I could. You are an adult and therefore responsible for your own life. "

It is necessary that they can solve the problems on their own, stop overprotecting them and realize that the experiences will allow them to grow and mature more profitably. And you, help your children in their difficulties?

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