• April 23, 2024

Intrigues, sabotages, disqualifications, gossip ... No, it is not a fiction novel, it is about the harsh reality faced by thousands of women in the world, both at work and in the social or family, but why? Do women criticize?

According to the psychologist Martha Lilia Mancilla, researcher at the Faculty of Psychology of the National Autonomous University of Mexico (UNAM), Although it is true that men compete and compare to each other, in the feminine sphere, competition acquires another dimension.

This may be due, according to the specialist, in a patriarchal society like the Mexican, women are required to fulfill certain roles limited to motherhood, home and with little representation in general, "besides restricting their access to decision making "

Not to mention the demands that are also demanded of us, such as being young, beautiful, voluptuous and, above all, passive. This thought, explains the psychologist of the UNAM, is also rooted in the mentality of women.

Then, when a woman goes out of the norm, breaks with what is allowed and forbidden, she is immediately the object of criticism and questioning by her fellows.

4 reasons for disqualification

Dr. Mancilla points out that the most common reasons for disqualification among women are:

1. Envy "We are very used to observe each other and that is why we immediately detect those who are different, which we usually express with negative comments and feelings of envy," says the specialist.

2. Being caught in that patriarchal speech is what moves us to compete, compare and even assault each other.

3. Have a macho thought. Martha Lilia Mancilla indicates that we are the women who reproduce and transmit the values ​​generation after generation in the family.

"There are many women who have a macho thought because they lack education in the home and school. That is why we live so that none of them gets out of line and we attack those who do it with criticism and horrendous qualifications ".

4. Feeling displaced. According to Mancilla, women who do not stick to convention stand out, and regardless of the way they do it, they can make other women feel displaced or less valuable.

"Whenever we feel discomfort for the behavior of others, or the need to talk about them, criticize them or see what they are wrong, we must convey that concept to ourselves, since usually behind something we criticize there is a projection of what that we do not like about our person ", emphasizes the expert.

Remember that disqualifying other women weakens us all, including yourself. And you, how do you express yourself of the others?

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