1. Worry about others, more than you

Just to give you an idea, at 11 years 33% of your leisure time you enjoyed them with your brothers , more than with friends. And in adolescence you spent at least 10 hours a week doing activities together. So it is undeniable that there are things that you learned from them.

 

"In the midst of the contrast of love and rivalry during parenting, you and your brothers they face situations that involve extraordinary learning, such as tolerance for frustration. All of which reverts in its social, emotional, moral and intellectual development ", indicates Jesús Jarque , pedagogue author of "Jealousy and rivalry between brothers" .

In case you have not managed to see it clearly, here we present some life lessons what you learned thanks to your brothers

 

1. Worry about others, more than you

The unconditional love It is a feeling that you learn as soon as a delicate baby arrives in your world, if you are the oldest. From that second you learn how it feels to have someone at your "charge" that you import more than yourself.

 

2. Be patient

Having siblings means that you had to endure unjustified scolding, crying late at night, that bothered you all the time and innumerable fights, everything that forged the patience what do you have before problems everyday

 

3. Overcome yourself

Almost always unconsciously you entered competition with your brothers for being the favorite son, which although could be source of frustrations It also had a positive side: helping you develop your best talents and skills innate

 

4. Work as a team

Thanks to your brothers you learned that for a common good it does not matter to forget about the rivalries to work as a team and get that permission, gift or ride they wanted so much. Teamwork it means that you care more about accomplishing something than complicated moments and misunderstandings.

 

5. To share

Everything begins when your favorite toy falls into your hands and although you do everything possible to recover it, you end up yielding almost always forced by your parents, but over time it becomes a quality , says the coach in personal development Irene Orce .

 

6. The ability to negotiate

In this quest to ensure that your brothers do not hold back what belongs to you, you unknowingly learn to negotiate . You try to offer them something different that they like and in exchange get a benefit although you suffered sometimes you dominated quite well.

 

7. That you are not the center of the world

It does not matter how many you have, if you were born before or after, your brothers wake up your first comparisons and envy to see the treatment of your parents. That's when you learn that not everything revolves around you and that if you want something you'll have to fight to get it.

 

8. Forgive

There are few people who can take you out of your boxes as your brothers do, so much so that they awaken your worst feelings . However, they are the first to whom it is simple forgive at heart, a lesson that is transferred to other people when problems have a solution.

 

Gift of life

Have many brothers can help to have less behavior anxious in adult life, as well as to be more active in adverse situations and to be more inclined to explore new environments, according to a study of the Autonomous University of Barcelona