• April 18, 2024

They say that in war and in love everything is valid, this applies even to the first date . According to the circumstances, do not follow certain rules It can be the formula to find a partner or achieve a relationship of commitment.

Jill P. Weber , expert in relationships of couple and author of Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy, says that when you do not follow the rules appropriate in the first date there may be dire conditions. One of them is to feel cheated or never connect with the person in question. "

For the above, Weber Advise you should reconsider at your next appointment romantic .

1. Intimacy: yes or no?

It is common to hear that a person should be expected, at least three appointments, before starting a sexual relationship with a possible partner. The problem with this approach is that emotional intimacy is not achieved in that number of dates.

No amount of time correlates with what really helps build experiences sexual pleasurable for men and women, "says the expert.

For sex to be pleasant and safe, most people need to feel a bit of confidence and emotional intimacy . For some this occurs in a short time; for others it takes much longer.

Instead of following a rigid rule, reflect, could you really talk openly about what you expect by having a sexual relationship ?

2. Be difficult

It is common to hear that it is best not to express your emotions in the first encounters. This is basically said not to live the rejection and to protect yourself, since these attitudes take away the other person.

However, the specialist says that closeness and affection are built when you are able to show yourself emotionally vulnerable and you will never be able to establish a link. If you want to call or send a message after an appointment you create emotional intimacy.

3. Smile and be nice

This is a great pressure, especially for women because it is claimed that these techniques are effective for him to want to spend more time. This attitude creates a mask that does not let the real flow personality .

Do not limit your way of being in a meeting, it acts natural, because generally men want their partner to be authentic, with their own opinions and thoughts.

4. Show yourself mysterious

This is one of the most widespread tips, although with this attitude the message that you may be sending is that you do not want any commitment and if it can be attractive, but in certain circumstances it can alienate the person and no longer want to leave with you.

5. Do not talk about your "ex"

Although it is not convenient that on your first date your "ex" is the main topic of conversation, in certain circumstances, such as a divorce, it is almost impossible not to mention it because it is part of your life and shows what you are.

Weber Explain that it is okay to say what is really happening in your life just make sure you own your experience and count without criticism, complaints or offenses to your previous partner.

The specialist adds that if you live moments of emotional instability , depression , anxiety or stress It may not be the best time to accept an appointment.

It is important to have limits, feel comfortable and not reveal more than necessary in the first date .  

Video Medicine: DO WE SHARE ENOUGH INTIMACY? 20 Yes Or No Q&A (Uncut) (April 2024).